Lately, I've read a lot about people quitting Twitter and Facebook or taking breaks from social media in general. Even if it's only after 5pm.
And then all of a sudden I
"realize" I'm checking every social media account I have (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram) every free moment that I have.
Wake up -
Check Twitter
Red light -
Check Instagram
About to prepare dinner -
Check Twitter because it'll be awhile
Commercial during Real Housewives of wherever -
Check Facebook
Before bedtime ritual -
Check all of the above
Why do I check these accounts so often? I hardly tweet anymore. Most of the tweets I read I don't really care to respond to. And Facebook. Ugh I
L O A T H E most of what is on there and I've even gone so far as to hide every game and block every invitation possible and yet I still hate it.
So why do I still log on?
Sure, humans are naturally
nosy curious. We can all admit that.
But do I really care about some of the most mundane activities that people post? The truth is that no, I don't care that the barista at Starbucks spelled your name wrong. And I'm sure you don't care that traffic is terrible and I'd rather be on vacation. So I'll spare you that tweet and Facebook post.
You're welcome.
I feel like social media users are posting too much, too often. It's like we are all living our own reality TV series without an actual camera crew following us around.
But I have a dilemma. I have a friend in Spain and love to see her photos. And then there's my new nephew that is growing so fast.
I
want to see pictures and posts associated with those topics. But there isn't a way to filter everything else out. There isn't even a way to delete "friends" without hurting feelings. Even if I delete those "friends" from high school that I haven't spoken to since high school, close friends and family that I would stay connected to are also guilty of re-posting stupid pictures and
liking things that flood my feed.
So what's left? Should I deactivate these accounts? Delete them?
It's been quite a while since I've scrolled through my Twitter feed. And recently, I deactivated my Facebook account. It kind of feels good to be free from these accounts. Why? Because I am not only paying attention to what is going on around me but I am also participating in the moment I am in with the people that matter the most. (Instagram I can't let go of so easily. However if you post a hideous duck face I will most likely unfollow you.)
I've been to dinner with that friend that constantly checks social media accounts and is more concerned with activity on those accounts than the conversation we were supposed to be having. And it sucked. In fact, I haven't met that friend for dinner since because I felt like it would be a waste of my time.
I know I'm not the only one whose been seated across the social media addict. How does one deal with that? Is it my right to ask the friend to put the phone down? Will the friend be capable of putting the phone down?